Like A Plague
If you have lived any time at all you have most likely been deeply hurt by someone. We get hurt in so many different ways and the hurt can come from a variety of sources. Hurt always brings anger at some point. Hurt and anger can plague us by stealing our peace and stealing our joy. It chains us to the wound so that we are not free to heal.
How do we rid ourselves of this plague?
To really get free of this plague of hurt and anger, we must first decide to align ourselves with God’s Word and will. So, if you are really ready to deal with this, ask Him to help you to get your will in line with His so that He can set you free.
Okay! First, we must deal with the anger. Old anger becomes unforgiveness and old unforgiveness becomes bitterness. If hurt and anger are a plague, unforgiveness is a cancer eating away at its host.
So what does God’s Word say about anger and forgiving people who hurt you?
Matthew 6:14-15 NIV
“14For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15But if you do not forgive men their sins, Your Father will not forgive your sins.”
This may be hard to swallow but the fact that we, as Christians, have been forgiven for ALL our sins, should give us a willing heart to forgive others. If you know God’s forgiveness first hand and what it cost Him, He can give you enough grace and compassion to forgive anyone else. That may sound impossible right now but just stay with me, friend. It is so true!
Ask for Help
Ask the Lord to help you. He wants to help you forgive. Unforgiveness is sin and it does not glorify God. Since that is our main purpose it should motivate us toward forgiving.
If you need to, get a solid Biblical counselor to help you with this. If you do not know one, leave a comment. I will keep it private and get in touch with you.
Another thing about unforgiveness is that it hurts you a whole lot more than it does the person who sinned against you. It will literally and figuratively eat you alive. Why let that person keep hurting you? You are giving them that power over you when you are stuck in unforgiveness.
So many people who are angry and bitter have psychological issues and health problems. Unforgiveness is a damaging, cyclical bondage.
Unforgiveness also keeps the wound opened and even bleeding.
Our 2-year-old granddaughter cannot leave a healing wound alone. She will scratch mosquito bites until they are huge sores. Then as soon as the scab forms, she will pick until she has it bleeding again.
That is exactly what unforgiveness does to our wounds. It keeps them from scabbing over so they can heal.
A short time back, someone I considered a good friend – shared confidences with and such – deeply hurt me. I realized in that instance that she was not the person I thought she was. She had me fooled and then showed her true self in the heat of a moment. I was dumbfounded and hurt.
Weeks later I was dealing with all this anxiety. I talked with my pastor about the anxiety and we started to unpack what was going on with me.
I realized that I had not dealt with the hurt and anger toward her. When I realized this I knew I had unforgiveness in my heart that I had been ignoring. At that point, I asked God to help me forgive her and let my hurt feelings heal so I could move on. I had been reliving the altercation with her over and over in my mind for weeks!
As soon as I ask God to help me forgive her, I felt relief. Now, when I feel that anger start to rise up again, I ask Him again to help me forgive her and let it go. He is so faithful.
Once we have forgiven the one or ones who have hurt us, then we are ready for God to heal our hearts. Then we are free to heal.
How? Immerse yourself in God’s Word.
Here are two passages that I will leave you with. May the Lord draw you close to Him, keep you in His perfect will and in His loving arms. May He heal your every wound.
Our familiar Isaiah 61:1-3 NIV
“1The Spirit of the Sovereign LORD is on Me, because the LORD has anointed Me to preach good news to the poor.
“He has sent Me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives, and release from darkness for the prisoners,
“2to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God,
“to comfort all who mourn, 3and provide for those who grieve in Zion-
“to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes,
“the oil of gladness instead of mourning,
“and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair.
“They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the LORD for the display of His splendor.”
Psalm 103:1-5 NIV
“1Praise the LORD, O my soul; all my inmost being, praise His holy name.
“2Praise the LORD, O my soul, and forget not His benefits –
“3who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases,
“4who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion,
“5who satisfies your desires with good things, so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.”